What's up, everyone? :)
It's been quite a while since my last post in the 'People Who Annoy Me' series (if you haven't already read my views on 'Grammar Killers', you can do so here). However, I felt that I needed to write this post because I have very, very strong feelings about bullying. And they aren't good.
The first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word 'bully' is a tall, hulking kid who looks like he (or she) could be the next big villain. You can see the bully treating his target like a punching bag for no apparent reason. You can see him stealing the poor boy's lunch and then laughing like a maniac.
Dudley. Classic bully.
But not all bullies are like the one I mentioned above. Some are small but sly. Some are discreet. Some aren't as bad. Some are much, much worse.
We've all been bullied at least once in our life - come on, admit it! Maybe it was when the mean kid made you give up your seat for him even though you didn't want to, or maybe it was when your coworker dumped all her work on you because she had plans for the night. Or even worse, maybe it was your own friend who tried to bully you into something you didn't want to do.
It must be fairly obvious to you why I hate bullies. Making others miserable is a very mean thing to do, and I don't like mean people.
But you must be wondering why I don't like pushovers. Being bullied is horrible and it isn't easy to stand up to your bullies. I understand that, because I've been there. Heck, I was a pushover once!
The problem here is that the pushover in question doesn't like being bullied, doesn't even like the people involved in the act of bullying, and yet he goes out of his way to be around them simply because he wants them to like him.
I remember thinking that way. "If they bully me, it must be because they don't like me. Maybe I should try and change that!"
Here's why that doesn't work out. You're not being bullied because they hate you - you're being bullied because they're bored and you're a source of entertainment and power for them. You're not a joker that they can laugh at, and you aren't a protein bar that they can feed on. You're a human being (well, if you're not, and you can still read, then kudos to you)! Bullies are simply parasites that need to suck your happiness to boost their own self-esteem.
The fact remains that the pushover feels like he is not confident enough or brave enough to stand up for himself. Instead, he decides to try and befriend the people who are trying to make his life miserable! That's just asking for trouble.
It's worse if the pushover is being bullied by his 'friends' into not studying or doing something that he doesn't want to do, because he is under pressure.
He thinks that if he doesn't do as they say, he'll end up with no friends at all. Peer pressure is difficult to bear, yes. But why bear it when you can fight it?
Or school, or work, or simply life!
It is not our abilities that define who we are - it is our choices! You decide how brave or strong you are. You decide how people treat you. Please, never forget that. If you want people to respect you, you have to respect yourself first. You have to start giving yourself what you deserve - happiness!
Trust me, when you finally do stand up to those bullies - whether they take your lunch, whether they make you do their homework or whether they're simply a bad influence - you'll feel like a new and better person.
Next time you see yourself being bullied, tell yourself, 'I can stop it!'. And you will. :)
It's a great feeling. ^_^