Sunday, 21 September 2014

How to 'Look Your Best'

Hello, darling Geeks!

About a month ago, one of my favourite YouTubers posted a video talking about looking your best. Here's the video, for those of you who are interested.

Maybe I misinterpreted her, but from my understanding of the video, I could gather a few things: that looking your best is absolutely essential, that you need to be all dolled up to look your best, and that you have to do these things because you're a part of society and you have to play by the rules.

I disagree.

I hate the fact that we're becoming so obsessed with our looks. Yes, everyone enjoys looking at beauty. Looking at beautiful things makes me happy.
But my version of beauty is probably different from yours. My version of 'looking your best' is definitely different from Mimi's version.

According to me, looking your best doesn't mean you have to change your appearance because society wants you to. It's about dressing the way you want to - the way that makes you happy. Can you really look your best if you're not comfortable in your own clothes?

One point that Mimi made in the video is that we're all wearing costumes, living in our own movie. She said, "What costume do you want to wear? The costume of an extra, or the costume of the main hero?"
My question is... how can you be an extra in your own life? Why do you need to be 'dressed up' to be the main hero?

Being a hero has absolutely nothing to do with looks. Being a hero has to do with being a good person, being kind, being brave, making other people happy.... your actions and choices make you a hero, not your 'costume'.

And yes, it's important to respect yourself, as Mimi said. And I agree, it's important to eat healthy and be active and take care of your body.
But there are also other ways to earn the respect of others - through your personality!

It's true that first impressions matter. And most first impressions are gathered by your appearance, because that's what people notice first. But does that really mean you have to get out of your comfort zone to dress for others?

I don't know what people think of me when they see me for the first time. Maybe some of them think I'm average. Some may think I'm beautiful. Some might think I'm not trying hard enough, or that I'm antisocial or that I'm a Geek. Some people might not even notice me!

But that's okay, because even then, I'm being myself. And that, I believe, is how you look your best.

I could definitely look more atractive if I blow-dried my hair or hid my dark circles or wore cute heels every day. And yes, that would definitely make people want to approach me more. But it wouldn't make me more comfortable. I may have the time for it, but I don't have the willingness to do those things all the time.

If you're comfortable doing those things, go for it! You should always, always, always do the things that make you happy. Happiness is the most important part of life.

You know what makes me happy? When I wear fandom clothing, or an outfit that has sentimental value, or a pair of earrings or an accessory that has a fond memory attached to it. Maybe it doesn't make my eyes pop and maybe it makes me look shorter - but it reminds me of the amazing things and people in my life. And that's what will make me look my best.

And maybe getting all dressy is how Mimi looks her best. And maybe she does it only for herself, as she claims in the video. But that isn't true for all of us, is it?

Don't ever do something because others want you to do it. Don't change your appearance so more people will hang out with you! Don't blow-dry your hair straight so people will 'respect' you!

Do it because you want to do it. You can do all those things as much as you want, only if you want to do it for yourself! Your comfort and happiness is more important than a stranger's approval.

I know a lot of people think first impressions are everything. And sometimes they are - like in a job interview. But even then, the interviewer would pay more attention to your body language and your confidence - not what shoes you're wearing or what hair gel you're using.

So do whatever is in your power to become a self-satisfied person. That's what will help you look and feel your best.

What about you? What do you do to look your best? And what are your opinions about Mimi's video, if you've seen it? What do you think she wanted to say?
Let me know in the comments. I love discussions with my Geeks! :D

Bye for now. :)


  1. Swati, while you pointed out a lot of things that are true about society, there are other things that are so not true... despite what society would lead you to believe. firstly, no one will approach you unless you make the effort to... your clothes don't ever make a difference... as for myself i love being dressy soemtimes or just down right comfortable in wearing the Tapestry t shirt (though some of my friends hate CMR... were traumatised too xD ) coz sometimes it feels nice to just be relaxed.

    So, your clothes NEVER make a difference coz then especially when you're dressy, people aren't comfortable approaching you, unless you dress like a movie star and peeps think you're cray cray.

    honetly speaking thouhg, it would be fun to cosplay for an entire day... just that people wouldn't be able to handle it and gettin weird stares is not what you want. :(

    So, i agree with your advice of dressing in the manner that makes you comfortable :)

    1. I can't say that they never make a difference, but definitely it's your personality and body language that attracts people towards you.

      You know that I'm an introvert and my body language shows it. People don't approach me just out of the blue, and I'm thankful for it. I don't like being the centre of attention and I doubt people's reaction will change if I change my attire or my hair.


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